Module Three: Even This — Blessing the hard things together.
The One Who Blesses Workshop
This is Module Three of The One Who Blesses, a six-part series inside The Reflection Work. Each module is accompanied by written reflections and guided by audio, inviting you into the deeper questions arising in our world today.
Another kind of teacher
In Module One, I spoke of the bodhisattvas—those luminous human souls who return to Earth again and again until all beings are free of suffering. I named a few familiar teachers: Thich Nhat Hanh, Desmond Tutu, Mother Teresa. People whose presence in the world created a field of blessing around them. A living resonance.
This week, I want to turn our attention to another kind of teacher—less lofty perhaps, less well known, but no less radiant. These are the teachers whose words meet us where we are. Whose stories and practices uplift the spirit, touch the heart, and offer powerful, timely wisdom in the here and now.
Tosha Silver came immediately to mind. A spiritual teacher with a light touch and a fierce clarity, her books—Outrageous Openness, Change Me Prayers, and It’s Not Your Money—gently dismantle the idea that we have to control or fix everything on our own. With irreverent reverence, she invites us into the holy practice of surrender.
Tosha reminds us: When we cannot hold something in blessing, we can offer it. We can hand it over. We can let Love do what Love does.
And that is where we begin this week.
What if I just (really) can’t bring myself to bless this?
In Module Two, we explored The Grace Field—the field that holds everything. Not just the beautiful, the peaceful, or the easy-to-bless, but the ragged, the rejected, the real. We explored the difference between condemnation (which exiles) and blessing (which includes).
This week, we ask the harder questions:
How do I bless a job that is draining my life force?
How do I live in a world like this—and still walk the path of love?
Is it even possible to bless someone who is actively harming me? In fact, I refuse to!
These are the questions that stop many people cold. “Are you saying I’m supposed to bless evil?” People sometimes call this “The Hitler Question.”
Am I supposed to bless the politician who threatens my freedom, my safety, my child’s future? What about climate collapse? What about genocide? What about the madness on social media, the violence in the streets?
Blessing? Really? Um… no.
So, let’s pause here. If these questions stop you, you are right: we cannot bless what harms until we understand what blessing is and what it’s for.
Blessing is the restoration of innocence.
It clears the mind of burdens it was never meant to carry: the heavy systems of measurement we learned from a world obsessed with sorting life into worthy and unworthy, right and wrong.
Blessing returns our eyes to Love. It returns our hearts to Love. It teaches us to see the world as it is—not as wrong, or tainted, or fallen into error, but as something still shining with its original light.
So let's take a breath, and gently, clearly, remember what blessing truly is—and what it is not.
But first, a story.
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