Instead of arguing with the world, we let it touch us. Because nothing is wrong—and that might be the hardest thing to understand.
Here's what I mean when I say: "Bless Everything."
Blessing changes the world—not because the world was wrong, but because blessing changes us. It shifts how we see, which shifts how we move, which shifts how the world responds to us.
There is a phrase I return to again and again, like a stone worn smooth in my pocket. It is the simplest instruction I know, the one that never fails me:
Bless everything.
Not because everything is good.
Not because everything is easy.
Not because blessing will erase the pain, fix what is broken, or smooth over the sharp edges of life.
But because blessing changes how we see.
To bless something does not mean we approve of it. Blessing does not excuse, justify, or ignore what is difficult. It is not an act of denial—it is an act of witnessing.
When we bless, we stop fighting with what is. We stop rejecting, resisting, or demanding that the world be other than what it is in this moment. Instead, we let ourselves see. We let ourselves be with life as it is, without immediately reaching to judge, fix, or push away.
Blessing softens us—not in weakness, but in willingness. We let the world be as it is. We let this person, this situation, this problem be here (with us)—just as it is. Because, of course, it is here. And we are here.
The truth is: this is here with us now. Denying it does not erase it. It only cuts us off from a piece of reality. The unblessed person, the unblessed situation—these things do not disappear when we refuse to acknowledge them. They remain, but we are not fully present. We are off in a fantasy of a world without them.
“Blessing realigns reality—returning what seems to be un-blessed back into the wholeness of the mystery of the Good. When the poke of guidance calls you back to your own true nature, which is love, offer the simple corrective words: ‘Bless them. Bless this situation and all involved.’ Or simply say, ‘Bless.’”
It is easy to bless what we love—the beauty of a sunset, the warmth of a child’s small hand in ours. It is easy to bless a moment of stillness when everything feels right.
Harder to bless what we would condemn as ugly, unworthy, unclean.
Harder to bless what is crass, coarse, or uninformed.
Yet these things are just as real as sunsets.
Blessing is not a weapon.
Blessing something does not fix or change it. It changes our perception of it. And that is a powerful shift.
When we turn our gaze toward what we struggle to accept, when we meet what is uncomfortable, frightening, or excluded from our definition of "good"—we are the ones who are blessed.
When we bless, we enter the world differently. Not at war with what is, but curious about how it is, why it is. When something does not match our idea of how things should be, we don’t condemn it. We don’t try to eradicate it. Instead, we seek to understand it. We ask: Where is this coming from? What is it showing me?
In that sense, blessing does not mean we do not act. It does not mean we do not grieve, or rage, or fight for what is right. But it means we do so from a different world—one in which everything belongs.
And this changes us.
Blessing makes us more real. We emerge as we are, blessing what is here, as it is. And that changes everything.
Blessing changes the world—not because the world was wrong, but because blessing changes us. It shifts how we see, which shifts how we move, which shifts how the world responds to us.
Blessing opens our hearts to what is right before us. Instead of arguing with it, we let it touch us. Instead of condemning it, we let it be here—in the world, with us.
To bless is to let the world bless you.
This understanding of blessing came to me through the Flow Transmissions—messages from the Guides, who call themselves Guardians of the Field of Love and Blessing. If you’d like to read their teaching on blessing, you can find it here, in this post entitled: The Poke of Guidance.
Invitation to The Reflection Work
Before we can bless, we must feel. Before we can say yes to life as it is, we must recognize the ways we resist it—the places where we fight, argue, or try to make the world other than what it is.
The Reflection Work is an invitation to sit with this—gently, honestly, and with curiosity. It is a space to notice where life is touching you, where something is calling for attention, and where you are being asked to be with what is, rather than turning away. The Reflection Work is my offering to paid subscribers, a yearly round of six-week offerings, inviting you into reflection - with yourself, with the world, through the work.
And then, this spring, we will step into our next series: The One Who Blesses, where we explore what it means to bless—not as a way of fixing, but as a way of seeing. Blessing is not about making things right; it is about returning to wholeness. In this next offering, we will deepen into the practice of blessing everything—not because everything is easy, or good, but because blessing changes us.
This is so beautifully said and held—thank you—continued blessings!
I needed exactly this, right now. I will carry it forward with me into Ash Wednesday tomorrow and try to let it guide me throughout the Lenten season. Bless you!